If You're in a Season of Struggle, Read This

There’s a strange pattern that’s followed me throughout my life—and maybe you’ve felt it, too.

Before every big transformation… I’ve hit a wall. Hard.

Whether it was the end of a relationship, a failed project, burnout, or just that dull ache of feeling stuck—it always came before a leap.

It’s almost like life needed to humble me first. Like it was asking:

Are you ready to let go of who you were, to become who you’re meant to be?

One of the most memorable moments like this came when I was in my early 20s, living in the Ural Mountains of Russia.

The winters there are no joke—20-below Celsius kind of cold.

I’d wait for the bus with friends, standing outside in the brutal chill, teeth chattering, toes numb. And every time the bus was late (which was often), we’d joke:

“We’re not sufficiently humble yet. The bus only comes when we’ve learned our lesson.”

It was funny… until it wasn’t.

Because that joke started to mirror my life.

Time after time, I’ve found myself standing in the cold, so to speak—waiting, frustrated, unsure.

And over the years, I’ve learned that those moments weren’t punishments—they were preparation. They forced me to pause, reflect, grow. And they always led to something better.

But only when I shifted my mindset.

When things go sideways, it’s easy to spiral. To feel like life is out of our control. But there’s one thing that’s always within our control:

Our mindset.

And it just so happens to be the most powerful thing we’ve got.

Here’s what I’ve learned after rebuilding myself more times than I can count:

1. Know yourself. Really know yourself.

What lights you up? What drains you? Where are you hiding or holding back? Self-awareness is the foundation of every breakthrough.

2. Get crystal clear on your non-negotiables.

These aren’t just boundaries—they’re your compass. They’ll guide every decision, especially when things feel foggy.

3. Master the 80/20 rule.

Not everything matters. Focus on the few things that move the needle. Cut the noise and the busywork.

4. Learn to say “no” without guilt.

Every “yes” to the wrong thing is a “no” to your actual goals. Protect your time and your energy like your future depends on it—because it does.

5. Choose your circle carefully.

The people around you either stretch you or shrink you. Growth requires discomfort—and the right people won’t let you stay small.

6. Show up. Especially when it’s hard.

Motivation fades. Discipline is what carries you forward. On the days you don’t feel like it? That’s when it matters most.

1. Book: “Mindset” by Carol Dweck

The classic that started the growth mindset revolution. Required reading for leaders and learners alike.

2. TED Talk: Angela Duckworth on “Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance”

A powerful reminder that effort over time often outpaces raw talent..

3. Podcast Episode: The Tim Ferriss Show — “James Clear on Atomic Habits”

Practical tools to align your environment and habits with the identity you’re stepping into.

If you’re in a season of struggle right now, don’t rush to escape it.

Lean in. Listen to what life’s trying to tell you.

You might be standing outside in the cold, but trust me—your bus is coming.

And when it does, you’ll be ready.

Because it’s not just about getting through the hard seasons.

It’s about letting them change you into someone who can handle what’s next.

Keep going.

You’re not falling apart.

You’re leveling up.

Until next time, here’s to your next level,

Justin

P.S. I’ve lived this cycle of breakdown-before-breakthrough more times than I can count. If you’re in that place right now, reply and tell me what you’re working through—I read every message.